Today we observed the anniversary of a close relative’s death by visiting the cemetery and leaving offerings (Chinese family members). It’s very respectful and Lily and I want our children to understand the reasons for this.
But my five year old girl is sick and the place we were going to is very cold. She would have gotten much worse so we left her at home. After the visit the whole family went to Flushing to eat, did some shopping and we came home around 4 P.M.
She was still upset about it. I once again explained that where we went was very cold and she would have been miserable. I promised that next time we go, she will come too (if she is not sick again).
She: It was very cold?
Me: Yes, windy and freezing.
She: Let’s go to a different cemetery. Once that has heating.
What could I say to that?